Month: January 2015

Feeling Rich Without Money

We buy things that attract us, as if somehow they’re going to fill our empty metaphorical spaces. We buy the pretty vase because our jobs aren’t what we expected, we buy the shoes and the bag because we ended a long-term relationship, we buy the new wardrobe fillers because our work wasn’t received how we wanted it to. We swipe, select check, savings or credit and enter our pins as if somehow we’re entering the secret code to enter the happy and satisfied life club. The thrill of that if it existed. But deep down we know those things are band-aid solutions. But we ignore them because acknowledging them would be too hard. Too powerful a tug on the marionette strings attached to our hearts. We wander the high streets, the mall strips, peering into the shopfronts, hoping to find something perfect but we’re really looking to find some kind of panacea for our lives. The perfect object, is a substitute for the perfect life. Every time we whip out our wallets,  we’re really wanting to …

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How Technology Can Help Create Empathy

1. Explore the human condition Social media, although at times forces users to trawl through banal updates about every day life, there is a lot of dialogue which highlights how people feel. Perhaps these are people that you wouldn’t necessarily meet in your day-to-day life, yet they share their stories on an open platform. Their stories sit there waiting to be read, to gain some attention and maybe, just maybe, be understood. With this, we can learn how someone on the other side of the world is feeling, and add this as a reminder that we understand, if only a little, the lives of others. 2. Anonymity We’ve all undoubtedly got a range of odd usernames. The weirdest one I have is “bozzeyed”. I don’t really know what that means, but with my moniker, I feel a little more at ease when wanting to express my opinions online. Of course, we’ve all come across trolls, or other people/bots who are purely inflammatory, but, nestled among the hateful comments, are people who are trying to voice …

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You’re Sensitive, You’re Pretty Awesome

Amid the constant flurry of activity that our day-to-day is composed of, we tend to overlook and forget things. Little things like ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, or medium-sized things like compliments and concern, or big things like compassion and empathy. Perhaps we tend to push these things aside because we feel like they don’t need to be spoken, as if somehow through the magic of osmosis, our friends, families and acquaintances will just know that we understand. But there’s this other group of people who don’t think quite in this way. The people who are willing to tell you that you look good, who are game enough to understand the troubled look on your face, and who are brave enough to put an arm around your shoulder when you’re quietly sobbing after watching My Best Friend’s Wedding and fearing eternal spinsterhood. These people are the soul-hugging, rage-calming human equivalent of chocolate ice-cream: your sensitive friends. Your sensitive friends are the ones who are willing to listen. Whether face-to-face or a 4 hour midnight Skype session, your sensitive friends are …